How can I add/remove large nodes? This operation frequently fails for different reasons

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Tablets have been available for a while and are widely used. You can learn more about it in this ScyllaDB University lesson.

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Is there a migration path to tablets?

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AFAIK, you would need to migrate the data to a keyspace with Tablets enabled. You can do this with the ScyllaDB Migrator.